Life is a series of events we often label as either losses or victories. We tend to view all the people and experiences in our lives through this binary lens. However, I’ve come to understand that sometimes, we should see people and events as our teachers. Everything in life can be a lesson, and it’s essential to maintain focus and approach everything practically. I acknowledge that this can be challenging, especially when we’ve been hurt by events and people, as I have experienced from an early age.

My life took a significant turn when I was just six years old and endured abuse. This experience altered my perspective, eroded my trust in people and my family, and shattered my self-confidence and self-trust. It took many years before I encountered a man who taught me what it meant to be in an abusive relationship.

During those ten years, I embarked on a profound journey of self-discovery. After deciding to divorce, I crossed paths with incredible individuals who assisted me in finding healing and rekindling my self-worth. They opened my eyes to the fact that each of us possesses the inner strength to triumph in any circumstance. Surprisingly, my ex-husband showed me that sometimes, we must hit rock bottom before we can rise and succeed. How we perceive life plays a pivotal role.

Life is dualistic; it’s both messy and pristine. We make mistakes as part of the learning process, and often, what we fear the most is what ultimately sets us free. There are blessings in disguise that can manifest through people or events. The way we choose to classify ourselves, either as victims or as victorious, ultimately lies within our own hands.

In this Holiday Season, let us never forget who we are and the incredible resilience and strength that resides within each of us.