This is the part of our life that is constant. Since we are little till the moment we die. Our life is impacted by what we choose and as a result, we live the consequences of what we have decided.
It sounds scary sometimes, but it is something we need to learn to do and the earlier we start the better it is. It’s being said we learn by our mistakes or the bad decisions we make, they often color our destiny and build the path we walk. Yes, we can make a better tomorrow by facing our fears, breaking the walls we have built around us to protect us.
One thing I have learned through my life is that those walls we think are there to protect us, ultimately make us unable to grow. Sometimes we feel we are in such a good place we are unaware that only change will transform us into something better and bigger. And the only thing that will strengthen us. is facing our troubles and our fears.
That is the story of my life. Since an early age, I had to face many challenges, not economic challenges, but emotional challenges. My challenges were not something that my friends or relatives could see, but they were hidden, and men, they were tough challenges. Over time I became stronger and when the time was right, I flew and became independent and the architect of my destiny.
I never knew the path I had chosen would lead me to some other challenges, economic challenges. After my divorce, I realize I had to give over 100 % to my sons and be the provider, the father- the mother, the teacher of my sons. I had to close my business, put my dreams of becoming a writer to support my youngest son with Autism. I had to choose between making a lot of money or being there for my sons. And yes, it’s been worth it.
It’s been 10 years I chose to divorce and 7 years of deciding to move to another state and I can honestly say when I look back and I see how much my sons have grown, how much they have improved, it makes me thrilled and gives me a lot of peace. Things are still challenging and I often have to balance 2 to 3 jobs. Is it worth it? Yes, it is worth it. I have to learn how to manage my time, be present, and be at home with my sons to support them.
My advice is to listen to your inner self, to your gut, to your dreams. Never stop dreaming big, never give up, because even though the sun is not shinning and you might seem to be living in the storm, the storm is not forever. It will only strengthen you. Keep the faith, cry if you need it, but wipe your tears and move forward. Life will be different and the sun will shine again for you.